
There is a kind of marriage pain that does not look dramatic.It's not an outward struggle.Just a quiet ache.A marriage that functions but does not feel alive.
Laura lived in that space for decades.
From the outside, her life looked good. Forty years of marriage. Seven children. A faithful husband. A stable home. A shared faith. Everything a good Christian marriage is supposed to be.
And yet, beneath the surface, something was missing.
Emotional Safety.Real connection.Being fully seen.
For a long time, she told herself she had nothing to complain about. Her husband was faithful. He wasn't an alcoholic. He never abused her. He provided well for his family.
But inside, Laura carried a question she barely allowed herself to ask: "Is this really all there is?"
The Hidden Cycle That Brought Broken TrustEven with her husband's steadiness and Laura's determination to be grateful, there was a painful habit that entered their marriage early on that would consistently rear its ugly head.
Her husband was addicted to porn.
This was their cycle for many years:-Her husband would confess porn use.-There would be repentance and renewed effort.-Then, pressure would follow.
Laura would put the blame on herself, thinking, "If I did better, this would not happen." She read tons and tons of books, trying to better herself.She kept respect for her husband.She pursued intimacy, knowing it was important to him.
And still, the cycle kept returning.
So, she did what many wives do–she minimized her pain.She told herself others had it worse. After all, he worked hard. He stayed. He was a good man.
Why complain?
But the heart does not heal simply because we silence it. And this belief that Laura had that it was on her was not only a lie… but it was heavy and destructive.
Decades of "Just Okay"Laura kept carrying the weight of keeping the peace and enduring that vicious cycle of porn use.
So, she poured herself lovingly into family life. She homeschooled the