Ep. 270 - The Gift of Fear: Book Review

🚨REALITY CHECK: Many lawyers live in what they think is fear, but let’s be honest — most of it is just manufactured worry.

That’s where Gavin de Becker’s book, The Gift of Fear, comes in. He discusses the difference between real fear and everyday worries. 

🗨️ “Worry is a way to avoid admitting powerlessness... it is a protection against future disappointment.” 

But REAL fear is different — it’s intuitive, it’s a useful signal to get yourself to safety.

AND (despite what y’all seem to think), winning your case is NOT a life-or-death situation. 🙃

When you spend hours obsessing over every possible terrifying outcome of your case, you’re wasting your precious energy. 

Not to mention, you are desensitizing yourself against the real fear signals that your body is evolutionarily hardwired to send. 

When you learn to separate the do-or-die moments from the not-so-serious ones, you gain the power to control your fear response, instead of letting it control you.

Tune in to fine-tune your fear radar. 🎯

 

Xo, Sari

PS. I want to give you a trigger warning — in this podcast, I’ll read excerpts from the book that include violent situations that can be triggering for some. If that’s not your cup of tea, I’ll see you in the next episode! ❤️

 

Mentions:

• The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker

Quote: 

• “Y’all talk about fear being a motivator, and I'm going to suggest that that is bollocks. Fear is the worst motivator in terms of the type of work that you're doing. And the author, Gavin de Becker, says that if we're scared all the time, we don't leave room for real fear to do its job when needed.”

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