333: Clean vs. Dirty Signals in Mismatched Sexual Desire with Dr. Corey Allan

What if the way you're trying to create more intimacy in your marriage is actually making your spouse want it less?

When one spouse wants sex more often than the other, it's easy to get stuck in a frustrating cycle. One person pursues, the other withdraws, and both end up feeling misunderstood, pressured, or rejected.

In this episode, Dan Purcell sits down with Dr. Corey Allan, host of Sexy Marriage Radio, to explore the difference between clean and dirty signals in marriage—and how both spouses can unknowingly make desire differences harder.

Being clear about what you want isn't necessarily the same as being clean about it.

Dirty signals might look like subtle punishment after rejection, withdrawing affection, avoiding uncomfortable conversations, or making promises of future intimacy that aren't genuine.

Dan and Corey discuss how these patterns develop, why both higher- and lower-desire spouses have a role to play, and what it looks like to take responsibility for your own reactions rather than trying to control your spouse.

You'll also learn practical ways to communicate your desires more honestly, navigate disappointment without resentment, and repair the connection when things don't go well.

Resources mentioned:

Dr. Corey Allan's free healthy marriage course: https://smr.fm/gofirst

Marriage retreats and coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com