375: What does it mean to 'be in your masculine'? (ft. Jason Lange)

“I knew it was something I wanted to be in because I thought it’d get me chicks.”

So begins Jason in describing his journey around learning to be "in his masculine" and "in his feminine." These are terms related to polarity that get thrown around a lot, and we wanted to break down what we're referring to in more depth.

What does it mean to be dominating versus assertive? Is it ever helpful to be passive? How does healthy polarity impact a marriage -- and especially one's sex life? Can you re-polarize a love relationship that feels "off" or isn't working in some way (sexually or otherwise)? Where does being in the masculine intersect with trust?

Listen to find out.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “I like to think I’m super ‘in my masculine’ but a lot of times I’m just in my head.”
• “I was waiting, which meant she was being put in the lead.”
• “The friction points in my marriage are when she has to track something (and doesn’t feel like I’m tracking it).”
• “A lot of us Nice Guys shy away from this because we don’t want to be dominating.”
• “I have to read her body, but I also have to direct.”
• “This is masterful; I’m just going to let go completely for the ride.”
• “The willingness to get it wrong is part of what makes it meaningful.”
• “Good leadership always involves listening.”
• “I literally just needed to do the thing I wanted to do.”

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Mentioned on this episode:

• DM episode 181: What exactly is polarity? We break it down.
• DM episode 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- unless you do this.
• DM episode 277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well.