The Queer Family Podcast

7 Apr 2025 08:30

Building a Family with Reciprocal IVF (at the Same Time!)

Two mamas. Two wombs. One donor. In this episode, Ana and Becky share their epic journey of building a family through simultaneous reciprocal IVF—yes, they were both pregnant at the same time. From pandemic sperm shortages to second-parent adoption logistics, this is a deeply lesbian, wildly honest, and beautifully queer tale of love, planning, and two babies born just five weeks apart.

This is a story of planning, spreadsheets, love, and so much queer resilience. Also, sperm selfies. And silk pajamas. You don’t want to miss this one.

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🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

Why they chose reciprocal IVF—and why they did it at the same time
The donor selection process (including that pandemic sperm shortage!)
Their deeply lesbian love story, from U-Hauls to board books
Lessons from the postpartum trenches (and why doulas and dog trainers were essential)
Second-parent adoption x2—just to be safe
And the beauty of watching your two toddlers snuggle up in the same bed at night

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈

Ana and Becky are a married couple living in the San Francisco Bay Area. They’re thoughtful, funny, spreadsheet-loving parents of two, passionate about intentional family building, queer visibility, and silk pajamas.

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