How to Raise Kids Without Losing Your Mind (or Yourself) with Dr. Chelsey Hauge-Zaveleta

In this episode of LaidOPEN Podcast, Charna talks with Dr. Chelsey Hague-Zavaleta, an expert in applied educational neuroscience and social–emotional learning. Together, they explore what it really means to raise calm, connected kids — and how to do it without losing your mind (or yourself) in the process.

They unpack the science of co-regulation, discuss the difference between gentle and authoritative parenting, and share practical tools for managing stress behaviors and creating family balance.

Dr. Chelsey offers compassionate insights for parents, teachers, and caregivers looking to build calmer, more cooperative relationships with children, and with themselves. Charna also introduces her upcoming group program designed to help parents and individuals deepen their self-regulation and embodiment practices.

"When we learn to regulate ourselves, our children learn safety through us." — Dr. Chelsey Hague-Zavaleta

Show Notes: 

00:00 Introduction and Personal Wish for Parenting

00:53 Introducing Dr. Chelsey and Her Expertise

02:41 Chelsey's Journey and Parenting Course

05:13 Parenting Challenges and Co-Regulation

07:45 Gentle Parenting vs. Authoritative Approach

15:54 Tone and Nonverbal Communication in Parenting

20:54 Handling Parental Preferences and Boundaries

30:17 The Ineffectiveness of Negative Commands

30:51 Positive Framing in Parenting

32:38 Intervening Before Explosions

34:04 Handling Stress Behaviors

35:21 Challenges of Co-Parenting and Transitions

37:57 Adoptive and Foster Parenting

45:09 Embodiment and Raising Self-Aware Children

53:22 The Power of Praise and Positive Reinforcement

56:11 Conclusion and Resources

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