Known Donor, Known Love: Kait, Sophie & Oliver’s Story

What happens when your best friend offers to help you make a baby?

Jaimie sits down with Kait and Sophie—two queer folks trying to build their family—and their longtime friend (and now known donor!) Oliver. Together, they open up about the winding road that led them to one another, how a heartfelt email changed everything, and the love, planning, and community it takes to make a family—queer style.

This is not your average family-building journey. From navigating fibroids and reciprocal IVF to creating legal contracts and sharing meals during donation week, their story is bursting with intention, humor, and a deep sense of abundance. They’re redefining what family can look like—and we’re lucky to listen in.

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🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

• Choosing a known donor over a sperm bank
• Medical complexities & the fibroid factor
• Navigating clinics as a queer trio
• Legal agreements, counseling, and the emotional labor of baby-making
• The beauty (and messiness) of chosen family

📍 Bonus: Hear how they found joy, built connection, and created space for grandparents, even across donor lines.

🏳️‍🌈 About the Guest(s)🏳️‍🌈

Kait and Sophie are a married queer couple deep in the baby-making process, navigating everything from medical hurdles to donor contracts with heart, humor, and a whole lot of intention. Oliver is their longtime friend (and now known donor!) who offered to help grow their family in the most beautiful, chosen-family kind of way. Together, they’re showing us what queer family building can look like when it’s rooted in care, communication, and abundance.

🏳️‍🌈 Resources Mentioned

• California Cryobank – Use code: LOVEISLOVE
• Modern Families: Stories of Extraordinary Journeys to Kinship by Joshua Gamson
• And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents, and Our Unexpected Families edited by Susan Goldberg and Chloe Brushwood Rose
• LGBTQIA Family Law Attorneys: Mentioned law firms include Aaron Robinson and Tabitha Coe’s office specializing in queer family planning.d

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