Our Daughters Need a Black Belt Before They Can Get Married

Our kids are in jiu jitsu, and we’ve only half-jokingly told them the requirement to get married is a black belt. In this episode, we talk about why — not because we expect our sons-in-law to be violent, but because of the confidence, safety, and sense of self that comes from a daughter knowing she can protect herself.We also get into the bigger conversation underneath that: the cultural expectations we each grew up with, the unspoken rules our own mothers lived by, and why we’re intentionally raising our kids without “our” culture — choosing faith first instead. We talk honestly about patriarchy, where some of those old hierarchies actually came from, and how Khadijah (the Prophet’s wife) ran her own business while still prioritizing her role as a mother once she had children — and what that teaches us about having both ambition and clear priorities.In this episode:-Why our daughters train in jiu jitsu, and what we actually hope it gives them-Breaking cultural patterns from our own upbringings-Growing up watching unequal division of labor at home-Why we’re raising our kids “faith first,” not culture first-The historical context behind patriarchal norms-What Khadijah’s life teaches us about ambition, marriage, and priorities-Our responsibility as parents to raise our own children, not outsource itSPONSOR AN ORPHAN IN GAZA : https://www.launchgood.com/v4/scheduled-giving/charities/sponsor_orphans_w_the_saleh_family_1/checkout[00:00] Cold open[01:31] Why our daughters train in jiu jitsu[02:50] Confidence over combat — what we’re really after[03:19] On trust, safety, and letting go[04:52] Breaking cultural patterns from our own upbringings[07:12] Growing up watching unequal division of labor[09:06] Raising kids “faith first,” not culture first[10:57] Where patriarchal hierarchies actually came from[11:01] Khadijah — business, marriage, and motherhood[13:34] Our responsibility as parents🔗 EVERYTHING SALEH FAMILYhttps://salehfamilyofficial.com🧕 SHOP LALA HIJABShttps://lalahijabs.comUse code YOUTUBE🎙️ OUR NOORISHED PODCASTWatch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWjPpIoJI1dfpzqqBxst1TP5Jx_dkZnB8Listen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/1FAXaICNqiUbjsskEFdySO?si=5ukqVKA1Qqa4zErMp8c2CwFOLLOW US:TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@salehfamilyInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/salehfamilyofficialhttps://www.instagram.com/sanasalehofficialBUSINESS [email protected]@Noorished.comFAN [email protected]#MuslimParenting #RaisingDaughters #BreakingCycles