Reduce Conflict in Your Marriage: Learn the Power of Soft Startups

This episode of Raising Marriage focuses on how to start difficult conversations in marriage using a "softened startup" approach.

Kirsten and John discuss the difference between harsh and soft startups, explaining how a softer approach can lead to more productive conversations and conflict resolution.

Listeners will learn practical tips for implementing softened startups, including identifying feelings, expressing needs clearly, and using "I" statements.

The episode highlights how this communication technique can improve relationship dynamics and create a more positive environment for addressing challenging topics.

Resources

- The Gottman Institute - Research on harsh vs. soft startups in relationships

- Episode 45 of Raising Marriage podcast - Discussion on weekly marriage check-ins

- ChatGPT or other AI tools - Can help rephrase harsh statements into softer language