S4 EP6: Transform Your Dating Life

Having moved from a high school relationship directly into marriage, Kristel shares her experience as a married woman, the challenges she experienced, and some of the lessons she learned, which are essential to consider before dating. Kristel also shares what she wishes she knew before she started dating and how her experience as a married woman has changed her perspective on dating.

In today’s episode, Barbara Santen, a dating coach, interviews Kristel on things to consider before dating. Kristel explains the importance of doing the inner work. It’s crucial to answer personal questions such as, who are you? What do you love? What childhood experiences could affect your dating life? Kristel shares a different perspective on dating, which focuses on working on oneself.

KEY POINTS:

[00:09] Episode introduction

[01:35] Kristel’s dating life

[04:19] Kristel’s bio

[06:44] Understanding the ‘inside job’ in dating

[07:23] When did Kristel start the inner work?

[09:26] Important things to do before you start dating

[11:31] Societal stereotypes

[14:10] Understanding femininity. The art of soft confidence

[19:18] The honeymoon phase time frame

[24:12] How to know your partner's values and personality. The SYMBIS assessment

[25:40] How to check for compatibility

[30:13] Kristel’s gift for the audience. The intimacy bundle

QUOTABLES:

“Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is an inside job.” [06:22]

“Know yourself, love yourself, and fully be yourself before putting yourself on a dating app or going on a date.” [06:58]

“Relationships are mirrors not meant to make you happy, but mold you into who you are.” [08:50]

“The biggest part of the feminine is trust.” [15:32]

“You cannot protect yourself from getting hurt if you want the relationship to work.” [15:58] 

“In order for a relationship to work, you