4 Nov 2026 08:00
What Kind of Sub Are You? Every Type Explained
There’s no single type of submissive, and Fifty Shades only ever showed you one narrow version of it. So this week, I brought kink consultant Amanda Dames back to break down every kind of sub there is, and help you figure out which one you are.
There’s the brat who talks back just to get caught. The little who wants to be taken care of. The service sub, the pleasure sub, the rope bunny, the pay pig, and the slave. Some of these will surprise you. At least one will probably make you go, “wait, that’s me.”
By the end, you’ll know what kind of sub you are, how to find the right dom for you, and how to keep yourself safe doing it. (And yes, I finally tell the story about vetting a potential dom that ended with me realizing I could have been on a date with Ted Bundy. It’s a wild one.)
In this episode:
- What a submissive actually is, and how it’s different from a bottom
- Can anyone be a sub? And what exactly is a switch?
- Every type explained: rope bunny, little, caregiver, service, pleasure, financial, brat, and slave
- Why you can be more than one type (and why boxing yourself in might be killing your sex life)
- How to vet a dom, spot the red flags, and trust your gut
This is the companion to our Types of Doms episode, so if you haven’t heard that one, go grab it too. Together they’re your full map of dominance and submission.
Want the complete breakdown of every type, plus the full guide to vetting a dom safely? Read it here: https://talksexwithannette.com/episodes/types-of-doms/
Guest: Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, @the_kinkconsultant on Instagram, and host of The Kink Consultant Podcast.
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