Why Knowing Your Patterns Isn’t Enough to Change Them with Laurie Emery

Episode Highlights From Laurie

• Why just knowing why we do something isn’t enough to shift it
• Her start in psychology and what she learned through her own experience as well
• How to be freer inside moments that used to run you 
• What does the body have to do with changing emotional patterns
• It isn’t that behavioral change is unimportant; it is just a doorway, not the destination
• Often, the pattern starts in the body before the mind, but we think it starts in the mind, and that we can change it only with the mind
• The body becomes a doorway into slowing down and how this is so important
• Can you notice what is happening inside of you without trying to change it or explain it
• Experience is made up of three things: thoughts, feelings, and physical experience
• What does SEE - BREATHE - STAY look like in an ordinary moment?
• Differentiating what happened vs. what we make it mean
• Healing in a relationship: Can I bring those old activations into the relationship 
• The difference between mindfulness and actually staying with ourselves in emotional moments
• Being aware of not bypassing or abandoning when staying with a feeling
• Not “can I get rid of this feeling” but “can I remain with myself while the feeling is still here”
• We spend so much of our life trying to control our external world so we don’t have to feel certain things, and how to shift this

Resources Mentioned

• Follow her on Facebook, and Instagram
• The Return Experience - Use code wellnessmama
• The One Thing Underneath Everything

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