334: Q&A - Sexless Marriage, Breast Sex, Higher-Desire Wives, and Is This Fair?

Q&A - Sexless Marriage, Breast Sex, Higher-Desire Wives, and Is This Fair?

Is it normal to have simultaneous orgasms? What happens when erectile dysfunction leaves a couple in a sexless marriage? And what do you do when one spouse wants more adventure in the bedroom than the other?

In this Q&A episode of Get Your Marriage On, Dan Purcell answers real questions from listeners about sexual pleasure, desire differences, and navigating the challenges of married intimacy.

Here's what we're talking about:

• Simultaneous orgasms: Are they realistic, and should couples even aim for them?

• Sexless marriages: How can couples rebuild closeness when erectile dysfunction and years without sex have left them feeling like roommates?

• Breast sex: Practical considerations for making this playful experience comfortable and enjoyable for both spouses.

• Higher-desire wives: What happens when the wife wants sex more often than her husband?

• Bedroom fairness: Is it fair when one spouse wants to explore new things sexually, but the other prefers to keep things familiar?

Throughout the episode, Dan emphasizes that a fulfilling sex life isn't about meeting someone else's standard. It's about learning to communicate, growing together, and creating experiences that are genuinely pleasurable for both spouses.

Resources Mentioned

For higher-desire wives:

• Episode 27: For High Desire Wives, with J Parker

• Episode 144: Learning to Love Sex, Higher Desire Wives, Sexual Imagery - Q&A

• Episode 241: Higher Desire Wives Aren't Alone

• Episode 283: ADHD and Sex, featuring Camden Hainsworth

Additional resources:

• Episode 33: Carly Palmer Webb on sexual pleasure and orgasms

• Mindset by Carol Dweck — the growth mindset concept discussed in this episode

• Intimately Us app: Explore the Sexploration Menu, bedroom ideas, and step-by-step instructions for positions like the "Bread Basket." https://r.intimately.us

• Get Your Marriage On events and retreats: https://getyourmarriageon.com

Have a question you'd like Dan to answer in a future episode? Visit https://getyourmarriageon.com or join our Christian Couples Improving Sex and Intimacy Facebook group to connect with the community.