420: 'I know what I need to do ... I just don't do it.' (ft. Jason Lange)

Do you want to establish a new, healthier habit, but so far you just ... haven't? For example: eat more veggies; exercise; have a meditation practice; be bolder with women/your woman; or a big one: cease watching porn.

According to a meta-analysis on this exact questions, intentions only account for ~30% of whether someone actually changes behavior — meaning you can be fully committed and clear on what you want to do, and that commitment still barely predicts whether you’ll do it.

The good news? Change is possible; it just doesn’t happen the way you think it does.

We get into the real gap — between knowing and embodying — and cover why some of the smartest, most self-aware men we work with can describe their patterns with PhD-level precision, but still be stuck in the exact same loop years later.

We also talk about the guy who showed up to the work feeling stuck and hopeless ... and who's now having the most fulfilling sex of his life with the healthiest partner with whom he has ever been.

Fair warning: this one might make you rethink how you've been trying to change -- and you might start taking the actions that'll ACTUALLY get you what you want.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "You don't know how deep the pond is till you get in there."
• "It's the difference between information and transformation."
• "Healing your relationship with other men sets you up for success with women."
• "Courage is not, 'I know everything's gonna be fine.' Courage is, 'I'm scared and I'm doing it anyway.'"
• "There is no replacement for the group."
• "The payoff is so grand — but you gotta take some risks, you gotta do the damn thing."
• "That guy's got fucking balls and fire ... and he feels so safe to be around."
• "Shame is healed in community."