438: She has seen 50,000 penises over her career ... (ft. Dr. Kelly Morgan, urologist)

... and here she shares the top 5 things men ask the d*ck doc. :)

[Content note: This episode includes a detailed description of male sexual assault. It starts around minute 8:50 and runs for ~5 minutes. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to skip ahead. If you’re a man who has had unwanted or abusive sexual experiences, you’re not alone. 1in6 offers free, confidential support for men, including a 24/7 online helpline: https://1in6.org]

Ever noticed something going on with your junk and quietly Googled it at 2am instead of asking a doctor? You’re not alone. In urologist Dr. Kelly Morgan’s words, some of what shows up in her office “freaks the f*ck out of” the men it happens to.

But don't worry! It's normal. A penis that bends. A lump on your scrotum. Something up with your semen... These are the things men carry around privately, sometimes for YEARS, because there’s nowhere that feels safe to say them out loud.

Dr. Kelly's office is that safe space, and we delve into what men most frequently ask the urologist -- questions that include a common erection complaint (but not the one you'd expect), the #1 early sign of an enlarged prostate (it’s not what I guessed!), what nobody tells you before a vasectomy, and the story from her years at the VA that changed how she practices medicine forever.

According to a national Cleveland Clinic survey, 72% of men would rather do household chores -- like cleaning the bathroom -- than go to the doctor. Fortunately with podcasts, you can get some answers without going in (yet). :)

Want sex and closeness that actually LASTS? Dr. Kelly Morgan is one of the experts in my program, The Man She Craves, which tackles both the physical AND the psycho-emotional side of sex and relationships. Enrollment just closed, but you can get on the waitlist for the next round here: melaniecurtin.com/themanshecraves

Mentioned on this episode:

• Dr. Kelly Morgan, Morgan Men’s Health (Eugene, Oregon): https://www.morganmenshealth.com/
• DM episode 411: Do I Have Low Testosterone? (ft. Dr. Kelly Morgan)
• DoD Safe Helpline: https://safehelpline.org/
• 1in6: https://1in6.org/
• The Man She Craves waitlist: melaniecurtin.com/themanshecraves

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “I’d have one guy a day cry, because you open the door, and you sit with them, and that’s really all they needed.”
• “He had never told anybody in his entire life.”
• “Men can carry that around for decades, and then they can heal from it within months.”
• “It needs to be revealed in order to be healed.”
• “It’s not so much getting the erection, it’s maintaining the erection during intercourse.”
• “‘I seem to be able to just go forever now... and in fact, a lot of times, I don’t finish.’”
• “Don’t expect your d*ck to just look exactly, perfectly, like you saw it in a porn film.”
• “Relationships are like little tiny cults.”