Are You Living In An Emotional Flashback Without Knowing It

What if those sudden waves of fear, shame, or despair are not "too much," but your nervous system remembering something your mind cannot see yet?

In this episode, co-hosts Elisabeth Kristof, founder of the Neurosomatic Intelligence framework and the NSI Coaching Certification, and Jennifer Wallace, NSI educator and founder of Sacred Synapse, return to one of Trauma Rewired's most downloaded episodes: emotional flashbacks in complex trauma. 

Through personal stories, they explore how emotional flashbacks can shift perception, body sensations, and behavior in real time, and how NSI helps map these experiences as neurotags in the brain and body.

You will learn how to recognize emotional and somatic flashbacks, why tiny cues can create giant waves of activation, and how these states connect with emotional neglect, toxic shame, boundary struggles, and other patterns of complex trauma. Elisabeth and Jennifer share how building daily capacity and emotional processing skills has changed the frequency and intensity of their own flashbacks over time.

This episode offers a grounded, neuroscience-informed look at emotional flashbacks and post-traumatic growth. You will walk away with language to name your experience, a deeper understanding of how "state creates story," and hopeful frameworks for working with your nervous system more gently.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Personal Story of an Emotional Flashback

• 00:39 – Who This Episode Is For

• 03:08 – What an Emotional Flashback Is (NSI Definition)

• 08:53 – The Greenbelt Experiment & Perception Shift

• 16:22 – Somatic Flashbacks & CPTS Patterns

• 22:18 – Holidays, Medicine Work & Intense Emotional Activation

• 33:05 – State Creates Story

• 45:15 – Repression, Completion & Daily Practice

• 50:21 – Post-Traumatic Growth

 

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional flashbacks are often somatic flashbacks, with intense body sensations and state shifts even when there is no clear narrative memory.

• From an NSI perspective, a flashback is a neurotag activation that changes how the brain filters sensory input, which can make familiar places or people suddenly feel unsafe.

• Emotional flashbacks in complex trauma are intertwined with toxic shame, harsh inner critics, emotional neglect, attachment wounds, and boundary struggles.

• Behaviors like binge eating, drinking, overworking, shutdown, or chronic pain and inflammation can be protective outputs and important clues that a survival pattern has been activated.

• Consistent neurosomatic practice, emotional processing, rest, and supportive relationships can reduce the frequency and intensity of emotional flashbacks and support long-term post-traumatic growth.

Resources Mentioned:

• Boundary Rewire Course: boundaryrewire.com – Repattern your nervous system for safer, more authentic boundaries.