Coach the Coach: How to Regulate Before You Lead | Dr. Jody Carrington | Episode 463

Dr. Jody Carrington says the most vulnerable emotion on the planet is not fear or grief. It is joy.

In part two of her conversation with JP, Dr. Jody Carrington gets specific about what it means to regulate yourself before you can lead anyone else, why joy requires every defense to be down, and why she collects information before she directs a hard conversation.

This one is for any coach who has ever felt calm on paper but tight in the jaw, and who wants tools that work in the middle of practice, not just in theory.

Chapters(00:00) Intro & Welcome Back(02:04) Fragmented Attention, Real Hacks(05:46) Go In, Go Out, Repeat(09:38) Ask What Happened, Not Whats Wrong(11:11) Who You Really Work For(12:26) Why Joy Is the Most Vulnerable Emotion(14:24) Waving at Everyone on Main Street(20:57) Collect Then Direct(26:14) The Kid Nobody Wanted to Coach(28:29) Investing in the Hardest ParentsTOC 3-2-1

3 Quotes | 2 Questions | 1 ResourceYour fast-track to the episode's most actionable ideas.

"The most important people you work for are the ones you go home to."- Dr. Jody Carrington

"The most vulnerable emotion on the planet is joy."- Dr. Jody Carrington

"Collect and then direct. It's not if I'm going to give that feedback, it's when."- Dr. Jody Carrington

2 Questions for Your Team

Q1: Where in your day is your jaw locked and your shoulders up before you ever set foot in front of your team, and what would it look like to drop them on purpose before you walk in?

Q2: Which two players are you not building a real relationship with right now, and what is one specific thing you could learn about them this week?

1 Resource to Go Deeper

Dr. Jody CarringtonFree videos, articles, and tools built around the same ideas she unpacked in this episode: regulation, connection, and showing up as your best self before you lead anyone else.Visit drjodycarrington.com here

Key Takeaways

• Regulate Yourself Before You Coach Anyone Else
• The People You Work For Are the Ones You Go Home To
• Ask What Happened, Not What's Wrong
• Joy Is the Most Vulnerable Emotion on a Team
• Collect Before You Direct
• Relationships With Parents Cut the Battle in Half

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