14 Oct 2026 07:00
What Kind of Dom Are You? Every Type Explained.
Think a dom is just leather, whips, and someone kneeling on the floor? You’re missing almost everything.
Dominance isn’t one thing, it’s a whole spectrum, and this week I’m decoding all of it with Amanda Dames, better known as The Kink Consultant: a certified somatic sex and relationship coach, certified sexologist, and former professional dominatrix who’s been featured in Cosmopolitan and Women’s Health. Together we break down every type of dom so you can finally figure out which kind you are, or which kind you’re looking for. (And I’ll be honest, this one got personal, because I’m on my own search for my dom right now.)
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What actually makes someone a dom (hint: it’s not the whip)
- The real difference between a dom and a top, and a dom, domme, and dominatrix
- Every type explained: caregiver, master/mistress, sadist, primal, soft dom, service dom, disciplinarian, findom, and pleasure dom
- Why the “daddy/mommy dom” dynamic is so misunderstood (and usually has nothing to do with age play)
- How to figure out which kind of dom is authentic to YOU
- Where to actually find a dom, and the green flags and red flags to watch for
Whether you want to be a dom or find one, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what lights you up, and how to go get it.
Want the full breakdown, every type explained in detail, plus how to find your match? Read the complete guide on my website: 🔥 Types of Doms: Every Kind of Dominant Explained
Guest: Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, @The_KinkConsultant on Instagram.
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