207. Our judgements and assumptions of others (fundamental attribution bias and how it impacts our relationships)

We all make assumptions and judgments of others – but did you know there is a bias we have in our judgements?

This bias shows up in all of our relationships and it can create an opposition and divide in places we actually want empathy and compassion. 

In this episode we explore the Fundamental Attribution Bias, how it impacts our relationships and what to do about it. 

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Key topics covered in this episode 

• The purpose of relationships, how this has shifted over generations
  • Relationships and wellbeing: The Havard Adult Development Study 
• Making assumptions about others
  • Filling in the blanks and mind-reading
    • 199. Mindset traps to be aware of (cognitive distortions that might be holding you back in motherhood and life)
  • Perception is a projection, how our judgements and assumptions can reflect our own struggles and opinions
• The Fundamental Attribution Bias
  • How we judge the action of others vs how we judge: character or circumstance 
• The me vs them mentality (or Us vs Them)
• Examples of it in marriage
  • 62. My husband put the groceries away wrong, he doesn’t care about me (love languages and expectations in marriage)
• Awareness and empathy
  • 84. How parenting with empathy can transform your relationship
  • 85. When empathy is hard in marriage and friendships
• Accepting the hard parts of ourselves
  • 162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.
• Getting 1:1 coaching support
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