414: What to do with, ‘You’re great! … I just don’t feel attracted to you.’ (ft. Jason Lange)

Ever been told you're a "great guy!" but she's "just not feeling it"? Or felt like you're endlessly chasing women but never being pursued yourself?

Here, we dig into what's actually happening when women consistently report not feeling attracted to you -- and what you can do about it.

The truth is, attraction only has a little to do with what you look like physically. For example, one client came into our program good-looking by every conventional standard: broad shoulders, nice body, the whole thing.

But he wasn't having success with women. He was frustrated and stuck. He felt like if he kept going in the same vein, he'd never get the partnership he craved. In this episode we reveal how he got to a breakthrough; after 8-10 weeks of doing what we talk about ... he was being chased for the first time in his life.

Plus, Jason shares a personal story — a date that fizzled, a year of doing the men's work, and then reconnecting with the same woman and completely changing the dynamic -- including having sexy time! Not because he looked different. Because he showed up differently.

Spoiler: "A man's looks account for 20% of attraction. The consciousness that animates a man is 80% of it." And the good news — that 80% is workable.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "If I'm in the friend zone with a woman, can I change it?"
• "I would freeze when it would be time to bring attraction forward."
• "We know pretty fast whether we're interested in someone."
• "There are a lot of guys that know they were attracted to a woman they're friends with from the moment they met."
• "Rejection wears you down."
• "I don't want to make her uncomfortable, so I'm going to hold that back."
• "We ended up changing it to a sexual relationship."
• "By being direct, you're leading."
• "I can't always tell whether I'm attracted to a man until he comes towards me."
• "You're just the same man with a nicer car."
• "I'd never had a woman chase me before."