20 Oct 2026 07:00
436: What if your father was a mass murderer?
After a childhood shaped by her father’s unpredictable volatility, a young woman faces an unimaginable act of violence and must come to terms with complicated grief, shame and an erratic path to healing.
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Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Sara Marinelli
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Child abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, mass shooting, gun violence, murder, suicide, death, traumatic grief, racism, racial slurs, dissociation, graphic imagery, serious injury, explicit language.
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