T4T and Totally in Love: Jacob and Riley's Queer Family Journey

Jaimie sits down with Jacob and Riley, a T4T (trans-for-trans) couple redefining what it means to be a modern family. From co-parenting with Jacob’s platonic best friend to conceiving their son using nothing but love, timing, and a little queer magic (yes, really!), this episode is a beautiful, affirming deep-dive into queer love, chosen family, and intentional parenthood.

They open up about stopping hormones to conceive, the emotional journey of pregnancy as a trans man, and how gender identity shaped their experience of becoming “Mom” and “Dad.” If you’ve ever questioned what a queer family can look like—this story is for you.

🏳️‍🌈 Plus, Jaimie shares why queerness isn’t a burden—it’s a higher calling.

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🏳️‍🌈 Key Takeaways

• Queer family building, redefined: Jacob and Riley show us that with intention, love, and a little queer magic, you can create a family that looks nothing like the so-called “traditional” model—and that’s exactly the point.
• Trans pregnancy joy is real: Jacob carried their baby, and spoiler alert—it wasn’t dysphoric. It was actually beautiful. Let’s expand what we think we know about pregnancy and identity.
• Mom and Dad, but make it queer: They weren’t sure those labels fit them at first. But once their son arrived? The imposter syndrome faded, and the roles made sense in their own unique way.
• Queerness as a calling: Jacob reminds us that being queer isn’t just who we are—it’s why we do what we do. It’s power. It’s purpose. It’s community.

🏳️‍⚧️ About the Guest(s) 🏳️‍🌈

Jacob is a trans man, a seahorse dad, and the founder of Pride and Purpose Coaching, empowering queer folks to live their truth. Riley is a trans mom with a passion for emotional intelligence, spirituality, and chosen family.

🔗 Resources Mentioned

• California Cryobank – Use code: LOVEISLOVE
• Find Jacob at: @prideandpurposecoaching on IG & Facebook 🌐 Website coming soon: prideandpurposecoaching.com
• Everywhere Is Queer Apple and Android

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