What Are We Teaching Our Children About Being Human with Laurie Emery

Episode Highlights With Laurie

• What children are subtly learning about being human by our own presence and reactions
• Our children can bump into places in us that are not resolved
• What they learn about if sadness or anger is welcome even within themselves
• How to shift so your child isn’t inadvertently responsible for managing our nervous system for us
• The most powerful things we can model for our children and it isn’t being perfect
• How can my child know what I feel without making them responsible for what I feel
• Children don’t need a parent who never gets activated; they need to know that they won’t be abandoned because of the activation
• How do we listen and communicate in a way where each person is taking responsibility for their perspectives
• Empathy and boundaries can exist together, and the downside of doing everything for our kids is that it makes us feel good, but they learn that we don’t think they are capable
• Not every childhood pattern looks dysfunctional from the outside. Maybe I became patient because anger wasn’t safe. Or I do everything because being needed feels like love
• Questioning: “Am I choosing this or am I compelled to do this?”
• Our job is not to make our children happy, it is to alow them to struggle and teach them they can handle it, to teach them all parts of them are welcome and they are still responsible for their actions 
• Moving away from reactive parenting to intentional parenting and how to repair when needed
• “Who are we committed to being as a family?”
• Learning and teaching the distinction between doing and being
• How to repair when we don’t handle things like we wish we had

Resources Mentioned

• The Return Experience - Use code wellnessmama
• The One Thing Underneath Everything
• Follow her on Facebook, and Instagram
• The True Story of the 3 Little Pigs! book

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